There I was, standing in a long line of people who were anxiously waiting to put in their order with the one barista behind the coffee shop counter. It took about ten minutes for me to reach the front of the line to place my order. And since this coffee shop was full of patrons, there was very little space for me to wait. It was a long day for me and I was a bit tired and I was going to skip this coffee shop, but I really wanted that nice, ice-cold beverage to end a hard day.
And that’s when it happened.
As I stood there, clinging on to that positive attitude by ignore some of the more obnoxious customers waiting, a boy waved to me and said “Excuse me miss, you can have my seat if you want” and moved to stand. I wasn’t even thinking about sitting down! I was shocked by his kindness. Truthfully, I hadn’t even thought about sitting down. I mean, how could I? It was a crowded shop and in a world where we don’t see much of mannerisms now days, I just wasn’t expecting it.
I smiled at him and told him how much I appreciated it and sat down while I waited for the second barista to make my drink. The boy, must’ve been around seventeen, stood until his name was called, about five minutes after he offered his chair. Needless to say, this one kind act stuck with me on my drive home that day. I had a smile on my face as I reflected upon this young man’s act of chivalry and, really, just basic good manners.
I also wondered what made him decide to give up his chair? Was it because I was a woman and he really was being a gentleman? Was it because I was a woman who looked like I could use a rest? Or was it because he knew his order was coming up soon and didn’t need to sit down any more?
And as curious as I was about what his motive was, what mattered to me was that he acted. He acted upon his decision to offer me a seat and because of that decision it made my day a little better. It reminded me that there is still a lot of good intentions out there and while it’s good to air out the bad, I shouldn’t forget there’s good. Sappy, I know, but it is what it is.
Chivalry and good etiquette may be scarce these days, but it’s not complete dead. And I am grateful for that act of kindness.
Have you ever met someone providing an act of kindness, and in turn their service?
Do you think chilvary and good manners are still important?